It has been confirmed in the psychology that a person experiences different types of loves throughout their lives. Love is defined as a strong feeling of tenderness and affection for a person or an object. A person can fall in love with different aspects. It has been proofed by a study that a person may fall in love with at least three times in his/her life. It is not necessary that the love we feel should be in the same type of love, the type that they feel love differs according to the person that the person shares his/her emotions with. The deep emotions that a person feels for someone can also become toxic. Some will turn out to be a life-time companionship or some will stay as friends. In psychology it has been defined that there are seven types of love that a person feels. They are,
· Empty Love
· Fatuous Love
· Romantic Love
· Companionate Love
· Consummate Love
Rarely the people get the experience of a love which they truly feels everlasting, healthy and fulfilling. Therefore, it is important that you should understand that which kind of love that you feels or what kind of relationship that you are in.Let us see, what are the different ways that a person gets into when he/she is in love. Let us see how these seven types of love differs from one to another.
Infatuation is a kind of love which grows with the attraction. When you are with someone, you barely knows about that person but you feel a mutual attraction with that person, that is called “Infatuation”. When you are in an infatuate love you don’t find the things in common among you and the other person. But you both are attracted towards both and stay together. Infatuation is a love that comes from a passion. When an infatuate love lived without a commitment or intimacy it will fade within a short period of time yet infatuate love makes you feel intense and overpowering, but it is a short lived feeling. Infatuate love bring the rush and overwhelming happiness for you within a short period of time when you see your crushes, you feel like you can do anything with your crush and that feeling takes you to your own fantasy world.
This is a love which do not takes you into a relationship, moreover we can call it as a friendship. When you are liking someone, you want to share the exciting and upsetting things that you come across with, in your day to-day life. So, remember the person that you call for all your happiness and sorrow? This is not actually a relationship that based on love but based on friendship. In such a relationship, you can always be yourself, you share a transparent relationship with the other person. When you are liking someone, you find both your and the other person’s interests are common, the understanding of things are common, and opinions are common. This kind of a love long last without any intimacy, commitment, or passion. It remains as a friendship.
3. Empty Love
The strong sense of commitment that feel toward someone is called “Empty love”. There is no any significant sharing of personal stories or any sexual attraction towards the other person. Normally we can identify the Empty love by the love that we share with our family members, you have a strong commitment without any intimacy or passion. You see the future with the other person, and you cannot imagine the future without those that whom you love. The empty love that grows in ourselves can change even. The love in a marriage often turns into an Empty love, you have a long-term relationship among each other but find lost feelings for one another. When it comes to final or near-final stages of a relationship normally it occurs an Empty love but, in some cases, we can find the Empty love as the first stage of a long-term relationship. We find the Empty love between an arranged marriage couple, they are in a commitment of being as a husband and wife without any passion or intimacy, but it can reverse into a flourishing love over the time.
4. Fatuous Love
This is a kind of love which gives the priority to commitment and passion leaving behind the intimacy and liking. In this kind of love the two people are bounded to each other, attracted to each other by all their means without having a true intimacy. In Fatuous love the couples do not perceive their partner as a friend. Both of them are attracted to each other and exchange vows and home duties, such couples love together for a long time. The happiness of each person in this kind of love is relative. The chemistry between both in a couple overwhelms each other and compels them to get into a everlasting bond, you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner when you are in a fatuous love.
5. Romantic Love
When a couple shares a relationship with intimacy and passion such kind of love is called a Romantic Love, without a commitment, this kind of love remains short-lived. The romantic lovers are attracted to each other and feel the comfort when they are together, but they are not ready to make serious commitments. The passion for both grows with the mutual understanding and the accompany by sharing the personal stories. When you are in a Romantic love you need to actively work for long term relationship, unless it does not develop the commitment in the relationship. In a Romantic love the couple shares both intimate and passionate feelings towards each other without a real commitment. The partners engage in deep conversations to know their intimate details. Those who shares a Romantic love relationships enjoy the sexual passion and affection most. The most popular and best example for such a Romantic love is “Romeo and Juliet love.”
6. Companionate Love
In companionate love, there is a presence of love, commitment, and intimacy of love triangle between a couple, but there is a lack of passion. This is most like a friendship but stronger than that. We can find a true, honest bond between the couple. It has been defined in the psychology that a Companionate love may arise after long years of a relationship or in a marriage. When two people get into matrimony they are bounded to a large amount of commitments and intimacy, there we find this concept of Companionate love but they are not passionately bounded to each other, so we can find it as a love with minimal sexual desires. You can blow up your Companionate love to rekindle the fire and to bring it back with passion in the mix.
7. Consummate Love
This is the love that we all want, this can be called ‘the total form of love’. We can call it as the complete package of love or the Ideal relationship. A Consummate love consists of intimacy, commitment and passion. When you are in a Consummate love you and your partner cannot imagine yourself with anyone else or you cannot stay happily without your partner. But rarely you can find such a love. People can shape themselves for a Consummate love by building themselves. Those who shares a Consummate love live together for a long and they get into marriages as well, they enjoy b both their love life as well as the marriage life. A couple who are in this kind of love relationship can be the best friends, they will never dwindle on spending the lifetime together, forever. In short terms we can call this Consummate love as “unconditional love”. Not among lovers even Consummate love presence between the parents and children as well, but there the loving aspect is different.
It is important that we should find the best version of love, but the importance of love differs from one person to another, also the importance of the components for a love also differs from time to time. Therefore, knowing about these facts will make your love life more meaningful.